Parenting Rules for Permissive
Parents: Use These with Caution
by:
Jean Tracy. MSS
I remember a childless couple who slept with
their dogs. They were clearly uncomfortable with the
situation. Yet every night their dogs crawled into
bed with them.
During the day the two black labs ran through the
house, climbed on the furniture, and regularly ate
human food from the hands of their masters. Did you
know some parents treat their kids like this couple
treated their dogs? Let’s find out how.
Recently, my own Yellow Lab, Chum, had knee
surgery. While sitting in the waiting room, I
noticed this sign on the doctor’s wall.
Dog Rules:
The dog is Not allowed in the house.
Okay, the dog is allowed in the house, but Only
in certain rooms.
Alright, the dog is allowed in all rooms, but has
to Stay Off the furniture.
Well, okay, the dog can get on the old furniture
Only.
Fine, the dog is allowed on all the furniture,
but is Not Allowed to sleep on the bed.
Okay, the dog is allowed on the bed, but Only by
invitation.
The dog can sleep on the bed anytime, but Not
Under the covers.
Okay, the dog can sleep under the covers every
night.
Humans Must Ask permission to sleep under the
covers with the dogs.
So what’s the problem? Could it be that the Dog
Rules, really meant that The Dogs Ruled? How does
this apply to parents?
The inconsistent or permissive parent treats
their kids a lot like these dogs. When parents state
what they expect and then give in to the demands of
their kids, parents trample their own authority and
let their kids rule.
If this is happening in your house, you need to
change and you can change! Why do you need to
change?
Because being consistent gives your child:
A sense of being loved
A feeling of security
Respect for you
Self-discipline
A likable personality
How can you change? First, you must decide to
change. Second, follow the 5 rules listed below.
5 Consistent Rules:
1. Think wisely before you speak.
2. If you say “No,” mean it.
3. Use a firm voice.
4. Use few words.
5. No arguing.
The Wrap-Up:
The couple with the black labs changed their own
behavior.
The dogs went to the dog house.
The couple enjoyed sleeping in their bed alone.
Being consistent is one of the best ways to show
love.
If you’re inconsistent, you can change.
By following the 5 Consistent Rules listed above,
you'll be kind and firm, show love, and be a
character builder too. Here's to your consistent
success!
About The Author
Jean Tracy, MSS, Edmonds, WA, USA
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